Training Children
The world is failing at training children to have strong moral character. The result is a catch-22, as those who have received no such training themselves find it difficult to train their children to have strong character. Here are some examples and simple ideas on how to counter the growing influence of a world that is actively undermining efforts to instill good values in children.
Character Trait
Hard work and Self Discipline
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Counterproductive Approach
Caring for someone means providing all of their wants and needs no matter what. Regardless of attitude or behavior, children should always be given their needs and wants if we truly care for them.
This approach will foster an attitude of slothfulness and entitlement that will endure into adulthood. |
Training Activities
At an appropriate age, make eating at mealtime or having playtime a privilege given only when assigned chores are completed. Children will necessarily go to bed hungry once or twice to help them comprehend the importance of work and discipline.
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Character Trait
Financial Management
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Counterproductive Approach
Purchase whatever is needed for children; give them free money regularly to buy whatever they like. If they run out of cash but really want something, buy it for them.
This approach will lead to adulthood characterized by constantly asking for handouts from others, impulse buying, and crippling debt. |
Training Activities
At an appropriate age, make allowance a privilege given only when specific work is completed. Encourage and assist teenagers in finding work, even require them to purchase their own clothing starting at a particular age. Children will necessarily miss out sometimes on purchasing something they really want to help them comprehend the importance of financial management. If money is absolutely necessary for an activity, allow a child to go into limited debt--to parents, with a high interest rate. This will help a child comprehend how crippling debt can become.
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Character TraitTruth Discovery
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Counterproductive ApproachEvery time a child asks a question, simply give the answer. If they present an alternative idea, immediately discredit it. Make fun or speak ill of those with whom you want them to disagree. This will ensure children learn to rely on others for their knowledge, rather than seeking for answers on their own. Instead of waiting for and carefully considering all aspects, they will learn to latch onto whatever they are told by someone they respect and spurn all others, regardless of the merits of the arguments.
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