The spoils of the battles between Heavenly Father and Satan are power over Heavenly Father's children. When Heavenly Father wins a battle over someone's heart, He has more power to accomplish His will. When Satan wins a battle over a person's heart, he has the power to accomplish more of his work.
The devil and those that subscribe to his methods try to maintain this power over a person through various methods, including coercion, deception, guilt, and fear. Each method reflects force and control. Heavenly Father and those that subscribe to His methods try to build their power over others not by force, but by persuasion, meekness, and unfeigned love. The effect is that His children continue to follow Him because they want to, not because they are compelled to.
Satan's method for maintaining power over people only works in the short run. Eventually, fear no longer motivates a person to action. Coercion eventually breeds revolt. Wisps of truth eventually overcome deception. In short, it is difficult to maintain power using strong-arm tactics. In the world's history, one tyranny after another have fallen because they have not learned this lesson.
Heavenly Father's method of maintaining power can last, and it can last without any compulsory means. Those who follow Him do so of their own free will and choice. In the next life, the Lord's Kingdom will be made up of those who voluntarily seek to live as He lives. These have proven in this life that they never will stray from that ideal, no matter how difficult times get.
Our families and nations are kingdoms. If these kingdoms are to last, they must be lead using the Lord's methods, not Satan's. In families, Satan will tempt us to control our children through fear or force; in nations He will tell us to deceive and increase control to remain in power. We should not give in to these temptations, but rather model our leadership after God's--leading by persuasion, gentleness, and unfeigned love, leaving the final decision of whether to follow up to the individuals we seek to influence.